As Patty responded, I did the same in my first marriage but it tended to be one sided. It was painful when it ended but I made it through to the other side.

My second marriage is much more like the tips in this story but it is VERY nice to have a reminder.

We all need to remember this from Oriah Mountain Dreamer that I have shared here on Medium before …

“And I found that I can do it if I choose to — I can stay awake and let the sorrows of the world tear me apart and then allow the joys to put me back together different from before but whole once again.”

We just need to allow those new joys to put us back together.