I have said it elsewhere here on Medium …

When you link your expectations to your happiness you will be doomed to be unhappy.

It is not that I don’t have expectations but I work hard to not get so immersed that I MUST achieve them very specifically to be happy. I attempt to use my “emotional peripheral vision” to not view these missed expectations as road blocks but to help me “re-route my trip”.

Once you are able to un-couple your happiness then re-routing becomes fairly easy.